Is Flow the Secret to Happiness?

Have you ever been so absorbed in a task that time just seemed to fly by? You were so immersed that it was just you and the moment and everything else ceased to exist.

It’s called being in “the zone”, or flow. A state that has been described many times by athletes, artists, and yes….even doctors. It’s often described as the state of optimal experience. We are often our happiest, when we are in flow.

What exactly is flow?

Flow is a term coined by the researcher Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi (Chick-sen-mee-high). It’s a state where the degree of skill and the degree of challenge match up in this magic sweet spot. We are concentrating hard and feel challenged, but have enough skill and experience to be able to perform successfully.

This is often represented by the following graph.

On the x-axis is the degree of skill we might possess at a task. It’s important to note that one’s skill level at a task can increase with training. In the medical field, you can think of a medical student as someone that possesses a low skill on a task, say suturing, and perhaps and experienced surgeon as a highly skilled person.

On the y-axis is the degree of challenge that a task requires. Something really easy results in a low challenge level and something more difficult, a higher challenge.

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How Hedonic Adaptation Affects Your Happiness and What to Do About It

I can admit that I easily fall into the category of a Type A personality. And, so do most of my colleagues. We are ambitious people by nature. We’re constantly looking at the next thing, the next goal.

In many respects, I think that’s great. It’s great to be motivated. But this can lead to problems if we’re motivated for the wrong reasons. Chasing after things that aren’t giving us what we really want.

Why do I see many of us caught in the pursuit of more? I think that many of us falsely get caught in the belief that once we attain that “more”, be it a new job, a nicer car, or a higher salary that we will be happier and better off than we were before. But is this true?

Often times, it simply isn’t. And that’s because of what is termed hedonic adaptation. Its described as: “the observed tendency of humans to quickly return to a relatively stable level of happiness despite major positive or negative events or life changes” (Wikipedia).

A set point
 

 

The basic idea is that we as people have a happiness “set point” and that good things that happen to us can increase that happiness temporarily, but over the long term, we end up right back where we were beforehand.

A lot of the things we pursue in order to find happiness – more money, the perfect partner, a bigger house, a better body – don’t actually make us any happier in the long term.

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Why You Need to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

What’s keeping you from living the life you want?

When you look down deep is there something holding you back? Keeping you from taking risks and breaking through barriers? Is there a resistance? A feeling deep down inside that you can’t shake? What is it? Is it fear? Shame? Doubt? Guilt?

You’re not alone. I certainly have my share of “blockages.”

These are areas in my life where I often meet up with an anxiety around change. It comes up frequently in new personal relationships, and new social situations, for instance. There are times when I hold myself back from taking risks for fear of failure or embarrassment.

Yet in other areas in my life, I thrive in uncertainty.

I’m an ER doctor. My job entails being prepared for the unknown. Literally anything can come through the door and I’m expected to react skillfully in these situations.

And you know what? I’m able to manage the majority of these situations without feeling a great deal of stress or anxiety. Calm in the midst of chaos. No problem. I’ve got crazy some stories too…..believe me. Often times, people ask me how I’m able to remain so composed in the face of what appears to be a very stressful situation.

The answer is easy. 

It wasn’t always that way at work. I remember being early in my training and incredibly hesitant to step into acute care situations. I found them terrifying.

What if I make a mistake? Maybe I don’t know what I’m doing? Could I hurt someone?

However, through training and repeated exposure to that discomfort it dissolved and faded away. Slowly. And that’s the same experience of my colleagues.

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The Importance of Celebrating Yourself

Happy new year everyone.

As we enter a new year and a new decade, I’ve been taking time to reflect on the last year and the last decade. It seems as if I’m at that point where I can think in decades now. When did that happen?

Perhaps, if you’re like me, you can be hard on yourself sometimes. At times, my mind tends to focus on the things I haven’t done, or want to still do. Do you do the same? Naturally, I tend to overlook and forget about all of the amazing things that have happened over the last year and last decade.

It’s a mistake.

Problematic, in fact. Focussing on the future instead of honouring your present is a quick road to misery. It’s often said that desire is the cause of suffering. In that same vain, constantly looking ahead without taking in your present keeps you from appreciating all you already have.

Ten years is a long time and a lot has happened. When I allow myself to think about it, it’s been a pretty amazing last decade.

I was a resident ten years ago at this time. I had no idea where I’d be today. Now I’m a long experienced staff with the grey hairs (and no hairs) to show for it. I’ve been all around the world and fulfilled a life dream to make international work a part of my life. Lived in some great cities (London, Calgary, Toronto) and worked in some amazing contexts (Yemen, South Sudan, Ethiopia). I’ve loved, I’ve laughed, I’ve lost, I’ve learned. I’ve grown up in so many ways.

But despite all of that my mind tends to focus ahead. On what I’m missing and what’s next.

I understand that and I’d like to consciously change it. I’m usually not a big fan of resolutions, but this year I did resolve a couple of things. Last year was very goal based and I set myself a whole bunch of personal and professional goals. Some I accomplished (I started a blog experiment!), and some I didn’t, and that’s okay. I certainly figured a few things out a lot along the way.

Upon reflection, I realized that I’ve been too outcome driven. It’s good to have goals, but I can be a bit too strive-y and can focus too much on what I want to achieve instead of the process.

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A Regular Dose of Nature as Medicine

I’m currently sitting out by a lake. In a little cabin tucked away in the mountains of Vermont. My own little personal retreat. In the background, the sun is setting over the hills and the sky is a warm hue of orange. As I gaze at the scene behind me I am overtaken with a sense of awe and ease. I feel quiet, calm and rested sitting out here in nature, just being with myself for a little while. It’s quite a reprieve from the chaos of an emergency room.

I feel deeply connected to the natural world. Why do many of us feel such a strong connection when we’re in this space? Well, although this is an opinion, I really think that there is an actual connection. From an evolutionary standpoint we are all connected in some way. Over the millennia, we have grown biologically distinct, but perhaps there is still some sort of deep connectivity there. These trees over here, well on some level, are my relatives. (I know how crazy that sounds)

At least, that’s what it feels like. It’s like the same feeling I have when I’m see members of my family that I haven’t seen in a long while. There’s some sort of feeling deep down inside. Of gratitude, happiness, and peacefulness borne of connection and it feels to me like a real thing.

What is “connection” anyway? It is anything more than a feeling or a mental state? A deep visceral feeling that comes up when I’m around certain things that seems to have importance to me. Does that come from the electrical impulses of a few neurons, an intellectual understanding, or from something beyond? No one really knows. But it certainly is heartening to think of us as deep interconnected beings just living our lives in this world together. Certainly makes walking in the park a heck of a lot more fun!

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